There are obviously many things you can try and do to spark his interest. Some women dress in provocative clothing. You feel as though you’re spinning in a circle when it comes to grabbing his attention, right? Your other single friends all probably have their own jewels of advice that range from dating another man to make him jealous to giving him an ultimatum. Since most of them are also struggling in their own relationships, listening to their suggestions may not get you the results you want.
If you’re not happy with the state of your current relationship or you wish a certain man would feel as strongly about you as you do about him, you need to take steps to make that happen. No one can change your current romantic situation but you. Put These on Your Do-Not-Do List! As women we’re often brought up to believe we have to be perfect to find the man of our dreams. I know because I was one of the women who would strive for perfection for years. It didn’t get me the man of my dreams. It did make me miserable though. But it’s not because you are the woman for him, it’s because you’ll do anything he wants. NEVER cook a man dinner every night. NEVER do his laundry if you are dating.
NEVER clean his apartment for him and NEVER run over to his place simply because he’s feeling frisky. If you wear pink lipstick and the man you are dating says he prefers red, don’t convert. If you do you are showing him that you are easily manipulated. Men like a woman with her own mind. Don’t change who you are just because there’s something about you he doesn’t automatically like. Don’t treat any man you are dating like a child. This means no calling him all the time.
Don’t ask him where he’s been if you haven’t heard from him in a while and never tell him to button up his coat if it’s cold outside. He already has a mother, he doesn’t want you to be one too. Assume he knows what you want. Their minds also don’t operate the same way yours does. If you expect a man to know what you want from him, you’ll always be disappointed. The problem is that some of us wait, and wait, and wait. Futures aren’t build on fun alone. There are easy ways to tell if your relationship is headed for something more substantial or if he’s considers you his girlfriend or in some cases girl friend. I’ve dated men who seemed to be orphans.
I’d wait patiently to meet his family, only to discover he was keeping them at arm’s length from me. Men want their parents and siblings to meet a woman they are in love with. If he’s keeping you away from them, it’s not a good sign. He may not call like clockwork but he won’t let too much time pass without hearing your voice or seeing you. An in-the-moment man will usually call and ask if you’re busy. The reason being he’s got a few minutes to fit you into his schedule and he’s in a frisky mood. If the man you are involved with is often asking you to buy him dinner, or he makes excuses about not having enough money to buy you a holiday, Valentine’s or birthday gift, he’s not thinking long term. When marriage is on a man’s mind he is saving for the future. Men hold onto their hearts longer, at the beginning of a relationship, than women do. I bet you can attest to that, within your own relationship.
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